Relationships

Here's the thing I've been thinking about for the longest time...

Relationships

I don't like to call it BGR

Many youths think it's JUST between the B and the G and nobody else's business

but that's just usually the social aspect

there's more...if you care to do well, in Relationships

I've used Ps Benny Ho's teaching on "10 keys to finding a life partner" and messed up life experiences to come up with a phrase:

Choose Well,
Date Well,
Celebrate!

Here are the 10 Keys( i won't elaborate, go buy the CD!)

1. THE WISDOM OF SEEKING COUNSEL
2. THE PRINCIPLE OF BEING EQUALLY YOKED
3. THE BEAUTY OF PURITY
4. THE PRINCIPLE OF SHARED INHERITANCE
5. THE PRESENCE OF WILLINGNESS
6. THE KEY OF PRAYER
7. THE IMPORTANT VIRTUE OF KINDNESS
8. THE NEED FOR FAMILY BLESSING
9. THE PRINCIPLE OF TIMING
10. THE PRINCIPLE OF THE WELL

This teaching is based on the biblical story of Isaac and Rebekah.

Another frame work that is simple and succint is:

3 M’S IN LIFE:

1.Master

2.Mission

3.Mate

Do we know and love our Master with maturity?
Do we know and embrace our life's Mission?
Can we trust God for our Mate?

I believe He can provide if we choose the 3 M's in the right priority

So i threw up 3 frame works and if they help you, that's great.

Choose Well
- Choose life partners for marriage, not for fun.

- Accountability begins at this stage with your leaders. Allow others to tell you things you don't like to hear, like "You're not mature enough! You need to spend more time on your studies!"

- Before 18, your priorities should revolve around your studies. Devote yourself to do well in it

- Be patient and trust God. Understand delayed gratification. Grow themselves to become the best partner for the future.

-There's no PERFECT/RIGHT ONE for you. That theory is rubbish. You be the best one for the person you are ready to commit to.

- Singles don't have to be desperate or feel inadequate. Be single for a reason and season. Give yourselves fully to Kingdom Purposes.

Date Well
- Reminder that nothing is final until marriage

- "Serial Dating" causes unnecessary hurts and also griefs the Heart of God

- Accountability continues here with your leaders. Allow people to ask you,"Why were you staying over at her house? What were you doing at the park?"

-"Nothing to hide" yet "Nothing to prove". Be so beyond reproach in your dating life with nothing to hide, and yet not having the need to prove anything with excessive "public display of affections"

-Don't touch the privileges of marriage while dating, if you don't want the rule of marriage to be applied to you.

Celebrate!
-Openness and Accountability in your dating life is essential for you to draw people into your life and vice versa. That's community, that's Body life.
Then we can truly celebrate and rejoice together.


What do you think?